The man you marry will be of your choosing. I know you will choose wisely. The five traits listed here only begin to touch the surface of this subject, yet these are big ticket items. The list is not all inclusive but something to think about as love comes knocking on your door.
Your boundaries and standards will determine if he is marriage material. When Mr. Right comes along, make sure he really is Mr. Right and not just Mr. Right Now.
1. You love him
Love is a decision. You choose to love someone, even in the midst of their shortcomings. Shortcomings and all, do you believe you can love and live with this person for the rest of your life?
2. He adds to your life versus takes away from it
He adds to your life versus takes away from it This man adds value to your life and even to your relationships. For example, if you have a good relationship with your parents and a man enters your life and tries to bring division between you all, something is wrong with that picture. He is not adding to that relationship. He is taking away from it.
3. He supports your goals and vision
Once married, your goals and vision affect the family unit. Do you both have dreams that align with one another or at least can be supported by the other person? Look at this from several angles – everything from career, finances, spirituality, where you will live, to how many children you will have.
4. He supports himself.
Is he able to support himself financially? Does he make wise financial decisions? Love is grand and wonderful, but it does not pay the light bill. Sure you both will contribute to the needs of the household, however, how he handles money now is how he will handle money in your marriage relationship.
5. If you have children, he loves and accepts them.
If you have children from a previous relationship, he needs to love and accept your children. Is he jealous of how much time you spend with your kids versus with him?
When a man can add to your life in a positive healthy happy way, you have something special.
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